I got some really good instruction last weekend: I met with the “coffee moms”–a group of women from my old church who gathered with our toddlers once a week to drink coffee, have snacks, talk mothering and faith while the kids played.
We met at Starbucks (of course!) and as we each walked up there were joyful outbursts, hugs, and the best part of this group: HONESTY. Each one of us joined the group with a humble admission of how we had “screwed up” as moms that week. Seriously, it was the first thing out of our mouths. And it was refreshing and enlightening and freeing–and I remembered this was my favorite thing about these particular women. We keep it real. We instruct each other on how to be moms by admitting our weaknesses first, and then sharing our joys. We made each other feel comfortable from the get go, as equals, as women who need instruction, who need confirmation that even though we mess up we are still awesome moms.
Because the truth of it all is this: we all screw up. “Worst mom ever” moments happen all the time, because really, they are life. They teach our kids that it is okay to not get things right. Hopefully those moments teach us as women to handle those moments with grace, and our kids see and learn that lesson as well.
And really…this applies to all situations in life. What if we all started our friendship meetings, business meetings, faith encounters with God this way? What if we began with an admission of humility that leveled the playing ground? And then moved forward from that learning????
Yes, God taught me a powerful lesson that afternoon through those women. I will hold on to that instruction. Thanks for letting me share it with you, and I hope it is instruction you will hold to as well.